Saturday, 23 December 2017

So, this is Christmas ...



First Sunday of Advent


And what have we done?

Absolutely loads. It’s difficult to comprehend all that has happened in the year just gone by. And here we are again, at the end of another December. This one has brought freezing temperatures and frost and while the Midlands and the North had a grand old fall of festive snow we had an icing sugar coating on the highest points of the moor. We spotted it on that Saturday morning driving Amelia to a friend’s house and looked forward to a crunchy walk in the afternoon, but alas, by lunchtime it had melted. No snowmen or sledging for us. Though we’ve had our fair share of mornings scraping ice from windscreens and although there were expectations of a snowy European Christmas we’ve decided to stay put this year, and explore the local surrounds a bit more, saving a bit of dosh, so the frost and the ice will have to be our lot for now.


It’s been a busy month. I finished another unit of uni and earned my first dollar (or pound) as a writer which will continue on an ad hoc basis. And over a wonky few weeks of uncertainty Maciek switched employers and is now working on the holiday house of the owner of Wimbledon (never thought of Wimbledon as having an actual owner, did you?). After covering a couple of shifts at school as a volunteer - once helping Noah’s class collect wood from the nearby park for Forest School (when I say wood I mean mini trees that had just been lopped and I spent most of the time protecting the parked cars as the children dragged said mini trees back to school!) and another day accompanying the same class to a free showing of Beauty and the Beast at the nearby 14th century Barn Cinema on the Dartington Estate (not a bad gig if you can get it) -  I found myself suddenly working (almost) full time at the school for the last two weeks of the term. This is expected to continue after the Christmas holidays and the role is certainly an eye-opener, an experience I’m taking as a chance to learn and grow.
As the days have grown shorter with darkness descending by 4.30pm (whaaat?) we’ve taken to the inevitable hibernation that comes with this time of year with differing attitudes. For me it has provided a welcome invitation to rest and slow down, while for Maciek it’s taken some adjustment due to the feeling of a gloomy forever that comes with the onset of winter, a fear that ‘this is it’. But one of the things we’ve really enjoyed about living here is the distinct changing of seasons and an important reminder is that winter is just one of them. And soon enough spring will emerge, and so will the longer days and evenings that seem they might never end. Each season brings its own character. Autumn arrived with the a click of switch and fell towards winter in its own time, and it was lovely to watch the colours turn from reds and yellows, to coppers and browns, to become branches and twigs standing bare against the crisp cold blue of winter skies. There is always a warning of ice on the roads and never ending rain, but rarely a mention of the low December sun - an equal hazard to safe driving - that actually renders you blind at sudden unsuspecting 
moments, usually on bends around narrow country lanes! To be fair, following all the warnings of miserable weather we expected days of endless damp and bitter winds, but apart from the odd grumpy days (standing at the sport court on playtime duty with the wind blowing off the moor directly into my face, for example!) the weather has been a pleasant surprise. Perhaps the worst is yet to come, so maybe I shouldn’t speak too soon!


Every day, whether it’s on the drive to and from school or work, or pausing to look around during busy moments, we feel grateful to be living in such a beautiful place. We’ve been rugging up and enjoying the great outdoors - from country walks to exploring the woods, river dipping (walking through the water in your wellies and collecting things with a net!), always with a flask of tea and some chocolatey snacks. We’ve watched squirrels scurry along the back fence and hurry up the trunk of the neighbours oak tree (falling leaves are fabulous except when your small courtyard is the catchment area!), and met eyes with a fox in the woods much to Amelia’s disappointment (she was at school and foxes are her favourite - something to do with a Patronus from Harry Potter) but we’ve yet to spot a hedgehog, despite the perfect hiding place created by the massive pile of leaves out the back.

Before I started work Maciek and I had a rare day off together, enjoyed a coffee in the nearby village of Ashburton before exploring the Dartington Estate, trudging through mud and arming ourselves with sticks before daring the path that wound through the field of hairy scary cows! We grabbed a cheap takeaway lunch from Morrisons and sat by the river in Totnes, guarding our hoola hoops from a couple of seagulls, having a drink by the fire at The Royal Seven Stars, before picking the kids up from school. It was a brilliant rare occasion!


Although we’ve missed out on the wonderful Austrian/German Christmas markets for this year, we’ve enjoyed what our local area has to offer. The Exeter Christmas markets were magical with traditional wooden huts set up on Cathedral Green and there we met a friend for our first Gluhwein of the season.
Knightshayes Court, the quirky gothic revival Victorian house and gardens near Tiverton host a Victorian Christmas display with illuminations through the gardens.


Maciek had a snooze while Amelia and Noah participated in some Christmas craft and afterwards on a garden stroll he forced me off the beaten track (very difficult for one who never breaks the rules) behind a few hedges to a cabin/outhouse overlooking the garden (I know what you’re thinking ...) to drink the mulled wine we sneakily brought along in a flask while the kids played tig around the trees. Although I was terrified of being caught out I’m glad we did it. Away from the crowds, just us. We did get caught though, in the end, albeit in a very polite way - “Please may I ask that you make your way back to the lit pathways in 15 minutes time before dark, we wouldn’t want you slipping on the wet grass.” Those lovely National Trust volunteers.



Not to forget football training and goal scoring in the wind and rain and mud and frost (only sometimes) with awesome coach 'Dad' and guitar playing/trying to sing on those dark cold evenings sat by the fire (inspiration X Factor).

It’s not all happy days. It’s certainly been a year full of pretty much everything imaginable. There have been diagnoses that remind us of the precious fragility of life, how quickly everything can change, and others that offer clarity and more self-understanding. Amelia for one has struggled this month leading up to Christmas - the absence of family and the loss of her beloved Babcia has fallen heavily on her. Because this time of year not only emphasises the loss of the person you love but of all the defining moments of Christmas that they were a part of. There have been many tears. And it will be difficult transitioning towards new ways whilst trying to hold onto as many traditions as we can. We’ll be continuing the Polish tradition ‘Wigilia’ on the 24th - I’ll try my hand at mushroom soup (not a hope of making it as delicious as Babcia’s!) and ‘babka’ without an electric mixer (how long does it actually take to whisk egg whites into peaks by hand?) And Christmas Day will be a full English with roast and trimmings (and ‘pigs in blankets’ for breaky because when in Rome ...) aswell as the old tin of Quality Street that cost us £5 and not $20 - and there’s plenty more where that came from! And we’ll enjoy it all with family and friends in our hearts, while hoping for even a sprinkling of snow!

So from our family to yours - Christmas wishes for love, health and peace and may your year ahead be full of blessings and wonderful moments ... X



Chin chin, pass us the gin!
(P.S. Stories from summer/autumn past to follow in January!)
















On the way to school









I'm still standing ...


Ho Ho Ho!

Noah's letter to Santa at Knighthayes ...

... and Amelia's!



Frosty walks























We wish you a Merry Christmas!

Thursday, 2 November 2017

Conjunctive Adverbials and Stiff Grey Trousers

The summer holidays have been and gone and I’m so behind on this that there seems almost no point in writing it anymore. But we can’t just go around telling stories with massive gaps in the middle of them, can we? And I’m determined to keep it going, even if nobody reads it but us!

Much has happened in the last few months. Many interesting and enjoyable days out at cool places with newly made friends, camping trips, visitors from Oz, new schools, new jobs, new cars and new houses. So many stories to catch up on. I got bogged down with editing until the end of August, and with continuing Uni online. With job applications and interviews, with dealing with life in a new place and everything all that entails. But it will all have to wait its turn.

So here we are in November (when I originally intended on posting this it was October!). We’ve just moved into a new house, new town, kids are all settled into a new school, the leaves have turned colour and there’re more on the ground than the trees. We watched the apple tree in our front garden at Devington Park dropped the last of its fruit, we’ve got conkers and acorns collecting on shelves. There’s dark mornings and frosty air on the walk to school. But I’ll have to return to all that. I can’t go forward until I’ve gone back. Five months back. To May and the beginning of things. To the start of a brand new school with a rainbow logo and the discovery of psychopathic cows.

Why do we all have to dress the same?

Penguins'll do it!
It was hard seeing our kids all trussed up in uniforms, long white socks and boring black shoes the same as everyone else’s. P.E bags and plimsoles (tell me why?) and book bags that never got used in the end. School uniforms aren’t our bag, and it was the first time A and N had ever had one, so that was a bitter pill to swallow in the first place, not to mention the cost of it. £200 all up, because that’s what you’d expect to pay for a couple of polo shirts and grey skirts and trousers isn’t it?! It seems ages ago now, those weeks when I woke every morning with a feeling as heavy as grief, when I lay awake fighting tears and regret, wondering what on earth we had done to ourselves. It lasted two months, that feeling. I normally lose weight when I’m stressed. Too bad Chocolate Digestives are so bloody cheap. And beer. And red wine. And Minstrels. And Hoola Hoops. And French Fries. And Double Deckers. Hang on, what was I saying?

Not happy Jan!

A broken wrist in week 2 P.E!
I’ll never forget Noah in those stiff grey trousers and yellow triangle collars sitting perfect and neat on that dark blue school jumper (and me thinking ‘who are you and what have you done with my son?’), trying his best to join in with the before-the-bell football in the playground, but not knowing who was on his team because all the players wore the same. And I’ll never forget the lump in my throat when the bell went, and the rush like a mass exodus, of children fleeing the playground towards the school entrance, and my little boy swept up in the middle of it, too bewildered to even look back, not knowing why or where they were all going. And I’ll never forget leaving my little Milly hanging her bag up outside her classroom and me scooting off too soon, before she could see the tears in my eyes. It wasn’t what I wanted, nothing remotely similar to what I had in mind. And if you know me well you’ll know how serious and passionate I am about these things, about getting it right. And I couldn’t help feeling I’d let them down on this one. The guilt I felt was enormous.




The Wrong Trousers
A public footpath
But we both knew it would be a difficult day, so we’d planned to spend it hiking round the country-side to keep our minds off it. That was the day Maciek got soaked walking through a corn field because he’d worn the wrong trousers. I think it was corn, anyway, but I’m no expert on fields. It was taller than us whatever it was. Well, taller than me at least! (Obviously!)







Watch out for them cows!
Phone box library in Kenn
And that was the day we encountered a menacing gang of cows who ambushed us and surrounded the step-over stile and called over their mates from down the far end of the paddock and forced us to walk the long way round the wrong side of a hedge, following us all the way as far as they could, mooing and stomping and looking dead scary in general. Not sure if it was aggression or curiosity or both, but neither of us were game to find out. It’s the first time we’d ever encountered that type of behaviour from cows and for the remainder of the walk each open field was carefully inspected from a distance before we dared venture into it, just in case there were some psycho cows hiding in it, just waiting for some inexperienced ramblers like us. 
Dead worried face!
Sheep. They're nice.


We walked 10kms that day and I cried for 3 hours of it, despite all the fun and fear. We found ourselves in the villages of Kenn and Kennford, and that eased our worries. Beautiful spots where we found a red telephone box converted into a library and chocolate-box thatch cottage complete with a stream running through the front garden. My dream.
Dream Cottage
Old pub in Kenn

There was a lot to do in those first couple of months and we were kept busy with setting up life from scratch. But all was not well on the school front. The one we were most worried about seemed to be coping better than expected under the circumstances, and the one we thought wouldn’t batter an eyelid struggled the most. Every day. He wasn’t himself at all. The depth of frustration was plain on his face and apparent in his behaviour, and his enthusiasm for things he had previously loved about school quickly waned until he’d shout that learning was stupid, school was stupid and what was the point in it anyway. He’d loved to write stories and now he believed he couldn’t, and the stories and interesting questions about anything and everything stopped coming. He was heartbroken, which meant so were we. We’d talk at bedtime and he’d start reminiscing and it wouldn’t take long to all end in tears. Real, proper, heartbroken tears. And he’d cry himself to sleep. And of course it was all my fault.

One had a day off
One of the reasons he had come to believe he didn’t know how to write was because of the new primary grammar curriculum which was devised by four academics from four universities, given the task of putting it together, and who obviously had never stepped foot inside a classroom of 7 year olds. Obviously, because anyone who has worked with a classroom of 7 year olds knows that there’s nothing engaging or interesting or remotely necessary about 7 years olds having to learn what a conjunctive adverbial is and how to use it in their writing. Never mind a subordinate clause or a fronted adverbial phrase. Seriously? Who in their right mind would approve a curriculum which would expect 7 and 8 years olds to learn that? No wonder the kids were coming home so dejected. The teachers I spoke to shook their heads in agreed disapproval, because they didn’t even know the material themselves. But they had no choice because, of course, it’s in all the tests, and if the kids don’t know it the school ends up with a horrible Ofsted report and a bad reputation. And even more ridiculous is that it doesn’t even continue into secondary school because funding was pulled before that part was finished, no doubt to the utter disappointment of those academics, who had only taken it on for the ‘real’ stuff. How do I know all this? I read an article in The Guardian. So who knows if it’s true or not, because you can’t always believe what you read in newspapers or blogs! Even if the grammar is top notch. Which mine certainly isn’t. Before my kids started school here I’d didn’t even know what a conjunctive adverbial was. So my challenge to you: circle each one you can find in this piece of writing (hint - I don’t think there are any!)

Milly getting in there too!

Happy scootering in own clothes!
 Anyway, we’ve moved on now and the stiff grey trousers (and skirts) have been left on the second-hand rail in the corridor (information concerning the existence of that would have been handy before we forked out £200), and Noah is back to creating stories full of ambitious adjectives instead of conjunctive adverbials - they’ve run off back to the academic essays in which they belong. Imagine what would’ve happened to the Roald Dahl’s of the world had they been made to learn such advanced grammar at age 7? I know what he’d call the whole idea. An enormous stinking bogswamp of codswallop, that’s what. Now, circle the conjunctive adverbial in that, if you will.

Thursday, 22 June 2017

A Brief History of Devington Park



The Mansion House
Built in the mid 1850’s, and originally known as the Devon County Lunatic Asylum, Devington Park as it’s now called was designed by architect Charles Fowler, responsible for many other sites around Britain including Covent Garden.

The Church come private school
Gates to The Avenue
           
The hospital was self-contained, with its own farm to grow crops, raise pigs and cattle, and its own water supply from a nearby well. The long driveway leading up to it, now known as The Avenue, opens at the bottom with two huge wrought iron gates (the kind you see in creepy films about orphanages) which are flanked by two gate-keepers cottages, responsible for security and keeping the keys, and are now residential dwellings. The hospital had its own chapel on The Avenue, now a private school, where little children enjoy playtimes frolicking amongst Douglas Firs wearing blazers and ties and funny little hats. To the side of the main site is a building now known as Exminster house, which was a residence hall for nurses of the hospital, that have recently been converted to apartments.

During both world wars, the hospital housed wounded soldiers and those suffering from shell shock, particularly during the evacuation of Dunkirk. The site was bombed during World War II, killing and injuring patients and staff and destroying five wards.

            The hospital was not only a place for the mentally ill, but also the elderly, a refuge for women escaping domestic violence, and a home for young women who’d become pregnant ‘out of wedlock’.

            There was a ballroom for ‘residents’, in an effort to provide therapeutic activities away from the rest of society. This is now called ‘The Orangery’. It sits within a semi-circular tiered section in the centre of the site, which resembles something you’d find surrounding an Italian piazza, now named ‘The Cloisters’. Also within this space is an octagonal building where the kitchens once were, now a private dwelling called ‘The Priory’. The imposing main house just inside the gates that we know as ‘The Mansion’ was once the administrational centre for the site. Built to provide patients with a therapeutic environment, where social care was considered just as important as more conventional treatments, the hospital enjoyed far reaching views of the Devonshire Countryside.

        The Devon County Lunatic Asylum originally held capacity for 800 beds, but by the 1970’s this had risen to around 1700, due to all the extension over the years. It was eventually closed in the mid 1980’s and left empty, becoming derelict.

            In the 1990’s, Devington Homes Ltd acquired the 11 acre site and construction began to restore the buildings and re-develop them into apartments and townhouses. During construction cellars were uncovered with rings bolted to the walls, and we can only imagine the suffering that took place in these spaces.  The Sebastian Faulks novel ‘Human Traces’ tells of the grim reality of life in institutions such as this one at the time. 

            The whole building is now Grade II listed with English Heritage, and contains 118 apartments.
The Gazebo by the Pond
In more recent history, on Friday 21st April 2017, a family with mixed roots that went by the name of Grubs turned up in a Zafira packed to its roof with a metal framed bunk bed and quite a lot of luggage, and moved into a small apartment on one of the Walks. Although it wasn’t a patch on Apple Tree Cottage, they were delighted with the fresh carpets and newly painted walls, as they’d looked round some god forsaken places up in the previous weeks. They held the impression that it was spacious too, that is until their boxes arrived from across the miles two weeks later, and it appeared that their bedroom furniture had doubled in size in transit.
Noah at 'The Wooden Park'
            They employed the help of some unsuspecting relatives to help with the move, namely to offer some basic pre-loved essentials like plates and cups and a cutlery set, along with a saucepan stand (which came in very handy when it was discovered that most of the ‘cupboard space’ in the kitchen was actually housing a boiler and other contraptions), some dusting cloths, towels and an unwanted George Foreman grill, as well as a good old boiler for making some tea in the kettle-less, windowless, hardly-any-cupboard space cave of a kitchen. And that boiler would have been even handier, had the kitchen come stocked with some tea bags and milk, which it didn’t. Luckily, in the village, there was a little store (for romantical purposes we’ll pretend it was not a Tesco Express), and that saved the day as far as revitalising cuppas and ham and cheese sandwiches went.

The Squatter's Quarters




            Unfortunately there was nowhere to sit, except for a fold out picnic table with benches, which for one of the unsuspecting relatives proved far too unstable for a man of his size, but thankfully the family had been to the camping store the day before (because the husband is well into that type of stuff) and stocked up on reclining camping chairs and a thing that inflates to the shape of a banana when you swish the open end of it through the air and quickly shut it in with velcro. You can lie in it, much like a hammock, a bright green one at that, and the husband has enjoyed this invention very much in the front garden on some lovely sunny days.




The infamous bed and mattress





            The said unsuspecting relative was then tricked into assembling the much mentioned metal framed bunk bed, and the once stinky mattress which now had a vague scent of fabric conditioner (sea breeze with a hint of musty-funk?) was finally put to its intended use.

            At the end of the day, the family thanked the unsuspecting relatives, because without them they’d have nothing to put their dinner on, or dry up the plates with, and waved them goodbye until next time.



Seriously now! It’s been a great place for a new start. The village (which is probably now more commonly known as a ‘housing estate’ due its growth in recent years) has some great amenities, especially for families. A skate park, a MUGA (multi use games arena - took me a while to figure that one out), tennis courts, garden allotments, three playgrounds (two with zip-lines), loads of green space, a doctors, a dentists, a pharmacy, a hairdresser/beautician, a post office, a cute village hall (pilates-for-the-ladies on Tuesdays and ‘fat club’ on Fridays - not my words), a community cafe, a nice little deli selling organic homemade treats (and milk and eggs from the farm if you feel like boycotting the Tesco Express), a football club, a community centre with many and varied activities including a gym and another cafe, a 14th century parish church from which we often hear bells, and frequent buses to the city centre.

            A & N enjoy the acres of gardens to play in. Across the drive from our place is a pond full of fish and a gazebo to sit under. We’ve enjoyed many of these long spring/summer evenings playing badminton on the grassed area to the side of our place. I’ve done yoga out front, committing to it before considering the view I would be offering to passengers minding their own business on the top deck of the double decker that goes by every half hour.
Rabbits on the old bowling green, with football club in the distance

There’s a ‘secret passage’ through a small bit of woodland, great for squirrel watching, David Attenborough style. The Cloisters and Orangery and Priory can be accessed via a small flight of stairs and a door and the kids call it ‘The Secret World’ which is cool. The bus stop is right outside. Across the road is a flat rectangular, hedged and gated patch of grass which I’m told once served as a bowling green for residents of the hospital, and is now home to loads of bouncing rabbits. The Avenue is lined with big Sycamores and grey squirrels dart to and fro. So needless to say, it’s quite nice!





Devington Park behind

View from the MUGA

Skate park and MUGA





Maciek is now coach of the Exminster St Martin’s under 9’s football team. He was casually enquiring at the club in the days after moving about a team for Noah to join, and found out there was a team for every other age group but that one, for lack of a willing Dad to manage it, and would he be interested in doing so? And he was. So he is. The coach. Of a team of 12 boys, along with two assistant Dads who tagged themselves in once the word got around. He was famous within a week. The Polish Australian no-coaching-qualification-or experience soccer ... oops, I mean football Dad/coach person! A bit reminiscent of the ‘lederhosen’ gig at Kaiserfels Hotel in Austria (see previous blog!) He’s held two sessions already, the kids and parents love it so far. There aren’t enough balls to go around, but at least he’s even been given a whistle. And voila, a ready-made team for Noah!


A spot of badminton anyone?




Yes, it’s a good place to start for this crazy family!



Apart from school, but that’s another story altogether ...